I like to think of myself as one of the least judgmental people I know. I’m willing to talk to, and, in most cases, befriend just about anybody. Sure, I think it’s funny when my friends and I joke about OT days, when the Old Testament way of thinking rules the roost, full of judging and the old eye-for-an-eye mentality. Then there are NT (New Testament) days where love and forgiveness are the guiding force. But that’s all in good fun.
Today, I was browsing through my Facebook feed and I stumbled across a comment by an acquaintance concerning the Texas woman who was taken off of life support as part of her husband’s (and, presumably, her own) wishes, despite the fact that she was pregnant. [You can read the story here]. I am not going to say what I would have done because I feel that it’s a very personal and private situation that no one wants to experience. However, I was shocked at my physical response to the Facebook post. Without going into too much detail, in her opinion, the husband was morally, if not criminally, wrong for his decision.
I was about to lash out in a comment. Who in the hell does she think she is – judging that man when he was making one of the most difficult decisions in his life?
Then, I caught myself. Who in the hell do I think I am? I know it’s important for people to speak out when they feel strongly about a topic, but I was guilty of doing the exact same thing she was doing – making snap judgments based on immediate emotions. I think in this world of internet anonymity and the “comment culture”, people can weigh in on all sorts of topics, which is great when it opens the floor to legitimate, respectful discussion. It’s the name-calling, hurtful and bashing comments that don’t lead to anything but ignorance, stubbornness, and hatred. The world is very gray. You are entitled to your opinion, but it is just that - your opinion. Judging others is dangerous, and we have all fallen victim to it’s lure, whether it’s to fit in with a group, show how smart/worldly we are, or to just hear ourselves speak. Let’s make sure we remember that the glass we peer through to the world is clear, and someone is looking right back at us – judging.